Coping…..

What do you do when someone you love gets a scary diagnosis?

What do you do when this special someone was a huge part of your childhood….when she is the only person left in the family who really knows the you that used to be. She shares memories that others don't and can't and never will.

What do you do when this person, as an adult, has been on the periphery of your life (due to career, marriage, distance) but who still is a big piece of your personal puzzle. And if that piece were to go "missing" the puzzle would never be right again.

What do you do when you live too far away to give a daily hug and offer personal support as she meets the challenge.

You get angry and rail at the injustice of it all.

You think about her…..every day.

You call frequently.

You find cards to send.

You wrap up a box of kleenex and mail it as a "silly" but necessary support supply.

You email.

You text.

You try not to do too much…..but you wish you could do more.

You walk around with a lump in your throat sometimes and sometimes you weep.

You look for the positive - and if positive energy has any effect, this person's challenge will fall beneath her spirit and enthusiasm and bright outlook on life. Her life force will win.

If you are a religious person, I guess you pray - but since I'm not I send positive energy winging across the state line.

It's coming at you in a constant stream dear family member - can you feel it?